I noticed that it was different at a young age. I was more feminine in my ways. I did not realise, until I was 13 years old when I reached puberty, that I was more attracted to boys than girls. At first, I thought it was a phase. I thought it would happen and I was going to marry a girl, have children and live a fairytale life. When I was 16 years old, I went to Kansas City and I met a boy. We had feelings for each other, but neither of us knew that we were both homosexuals. I began to feel more confident in my sexuality. In February 2016 I started practicing yoga regularly and I realised that I did not take time for myself and I lacked self-love. With the yoga that grew.
After a visit from the boy later that year, I went to my friend's house in the city and told her everything. I was also ready to tell my parents that I was gay! I planned to tell them in person, but I knew it would bother me, so I decided to write a letter on my phone and send it to a family WhatsApp group. I went to my yoga class and turned off my phone. After class I turned on my phone and saw that I had hundreds of missed calls and messages! After arriving home, I felt the instant support of my two brothers when they told me they loved me and it did not matter, nothing would change. My mum called me crying. She told me that she loved me but that she needed time to process.
A few days later, my parents expressed concern that I was a gay doctor. My father asked me ignorantly if I was going to open a hairdressing salon and made a comment about protecting me from HIV and their concerns about being harassed. After a long conversation, my parents gave me their love and support. The relationship began to grow when they opened their minds and supported me more. It's been 2 years, it's not a topic that we discuss and they do not ask me many questions. I want to be able to share my relationships.
Since I left, I feel free and my love is much stronger. I have more confidence in my skin, my body and who I am. My therapy and friend through this phase was yoga. In my work I feel that people are insensitive. I hear people talk about gay issues in a very mean way. However, I feel that people are becoming more open. I feel there is change and there is support. Social networks are a great influence. I used to watch many YouTube videos about people coming out and I knew I was not alone. It was a good feeling to know that there is a community out there.
I feel that gays are increasingly accepted in religion. When I used to go to church, I always judged myself. I feel that the gay community is ready to open up, but the country is trying to close it. For example, if you are in a public place with your partner, you may be asked to leave. There is a controversial law about abortion, homosexual issues are taboo and sex education is not given in schools about how to be gay.
This year I attended the pride and felt good about being part of the community. Understanding that you are not the only gay man in medical school is a great thing! If there is someone who wants to come out of the closet, I want to be there for them. It's important because they know what you're going through. We just have to keep sharing our stories.